Starting or rejuvenating a social networking site
Starting a group on LinkedIn or Ning or other sites is really very easy. About all you need is a name and a few people to invite. But then the really hard work begins.
You’ve just invited 50 people to a party and they don’t know each other so what’s the very first thing you do? You introduce them or ask them to introduce themselves. And then what happens? Typically the conversation ends there. Or maybe a few people will direct message each other. How can you get people to feel comfortable enough to start talking?
Ask a few simple and interesting questions
Frequently a group of people chatting at a conference or a party try to find some experience they’ve all just shared to talk about. So if you’re starting a group of recent event attendees or graduates or purchasers, you can always ask people to give some feedback. But don’t just say “What did you think of x?” Ask for the strangest comment you overheard during a break, the hardest part of a course, or the reaction of family to your purchase. Give them an interesting angle to explore.
If people in the group haven’t had a common experience that you know of, give them one. Post a video or an article or a review and ask for comments. Or start an online treasure hunt. Or run a contest.
At parties there’s always a conversation about books, movies, or TV shows. People like to give their own reviews. So ask for a review or recommendation. If you have a group for professionals, ask for their favorite blog or podcast or Tweeter to follow. If your group is about a product, ask for direct reviews of the product—maybe even reports on how they used the product in ways it’s not usually used. If the group is built around a service or activity, ask for the best place to get that service or activity: where to snowboard in Missouri, or how to locate a service station when traveling the back roads of Wyoming.
Have you ever notice that interesting people usually have a few most embarrassing moment stories they aren’t embarrassed to tell? Ask people to share this type of story; just make it related to your group.
Yesterday was Thanksgiving and several groups asked the generic “what are you thankful for” question. I haven’t seem much response. That’s because the question wasn’t specific enough. How about “What have you found to be thankful for during these tough economic times?” or “Who would you like to publicly thank for supporting you in your profession or teaching you a skill?” You could even begin by thanking the inventor of a technology used in your product or service, or the father of the founder of your company, or someone influential in your community to get the conversation started.
At the end of the year, everyone loves to write and read predictions. So ask for some and make outlandish ones yourself. Make it controversial or silly. You’ll get replies.
People love recipes. How could you ask for a recipe—maybe a recipe for failure or success? Ask people to talk about their secret ingredient. What do they do that sets them apart from the rest of this community? How do they spice things up or keep it mellow?
Ask for the superlative stories in your community. Who or what is the strangest, fastest, tastiest, greenest, or cheapest? Ask people to nominate contenders. Maybe even offer a prize for who gets the most agreement with the person, place or thing he or she nominated.
Put up a poll. Then start a topic around that same subject. I’m sure I’m not the only person who loves checking boxes but then gets upset because the answers offered aren’t exactly expressing my opinions. I appreciate the opportunity to say a bit more or to vent about the choices.
People like to feel clever and some enjoy being silly and clever. So some groups might respond to a question like “Which Muppet/Star Wars character/super hero are you when using our product?” Or “Which rock star/Gilligan character/elementary school supply do you need us to be when we provide our service?” Or “How would Old MacDonald, or Donald Duck handle a problem commonly shared in your community?”
The next time you are with a group of people you don’t know well and the conversation becomes engaging, just think about what got people talking. And then try that out with your group.
Postscript
Here’s an excellent post on this topic: 10 Rules for Increasing Community Engagement

